What Are exPowers?

Commonly known as inner blocks, triggers, blindspots, saboteurs, the Ego, the Shadow, the Pain Body, and many other names, your "exPowers" are parts of your emPowers that, in response to various life experiences, are in a chronic state of stress, pain, and fear.  I call them "exPowers" because "ex-" means both "former" and "against": exPowers are former parts of your emPowers that feel like they work against you and your desires.  exPowers get in the way of you from feeling fully at peace, whole, and empowered within. 

Know that you are not alone.  Everyone has exPowers - often without even realizing it!  They are like hidden computer viruses or outdated programs in the networks of our hearts and minds.  Left unacknowledged and unhealed, they can make life a living hell - corroding relationships, sabotaging success, and perpetuating untold stress and pain.  However, the more we struggle with them, the more they hinder and hurt us.​

Click on their images to learn more about the 3 exPower types...

Controllers' primary behavior is to control you or another part of you.  They typically do so being critical, doubting, judgmental, pressuring, fear-mongering, restrictive, and oppressive.

On rare occasion, an inner Controller might try to control you or a part of you through excessive positivity - pushing you to be "Happy happy happy!" all the time.  However, most Controllers control with negativity.

Controllers often appear as a mean mommy or daddy, an overbearing figure such as a boss, or as a vicious, ruthless monster inside you.

A classic Controller would be an inner critic.


A Defender’s primary behavior is to defend and protect.  Defenders typically come across as defensive, righteous, rageful, protective, arrogant, and sometimes violent.

Defenders can show up in various forms, including a bulky, intimidating muscle man, a fortress or wall keeping others out, or even a righteous, protective grandmother.

A classic example of a Defender is an inner Wall around you that's keeping others out. 


Woundeds' primary behavior is to feel victimized and disempowered.  They typically come across as sad, scared, rejected, neglected, crying, avoidant, helpless, and hopeless.

Some Woundeds express anger such as a temper tantrum, but usually they're just trying to get your attention so that you’ll notice how sad, scared, and alone they feel.

A Wounded may appear within you as a child having a temper tantrum, a wounded animal, or a neglected ragamuffin curled up in the corner of a dark room.

A classic Wounded is a sad inner child.






​Here's the truth: your exPowers are not as awful as they seem.  In fact, they're surprisingly wonderful, once you understand what they're really about.  And they can change!  The Drawing Out Process® permanently transforms exPowers back into emPowers!   (Emily has healed hundreds of exPowers since she created The DrOP.)

Watch Emily's TED talk to hear more of "The Truth About Inner Demons" and how The Drawing Out Process® works.

The truth is that you can be free of your pesky exPowers - with the Drawing Out Process®


So how can you experience this life-changing work?


FREE COURSE!  This online course not only teaches you how to heal your exPowers.  It also teaches you how to honor your emPowers, know your Truth, and live it!


Experience the magic of your emPowers and extraordinary healing of your exPowers through the Drawing Out Process - straight from the source.  Work directly with Emily in one of her 2 private, customized programs...


When you honor your emPowers, magic happens.

You feel more balanced, whole, and free.  You are effortlessly clear and productive.  You delight in expansive joy and deep wells of pleasure.  You are fueled with creativity, innovation, and vision.  You know and trust your Truth.

Life. Is. so. much. easier.


Honoring your emPowers is something you can easily do on your own!  Want to know how?  Give me your email, and I'll send you a super-easy instruction sheet and postcard!  Plus, you'll start receiving inspiring "Daily Breath" emails...

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emPowers & exPowers drawn by Robbi Behr.

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DISCLAIMER: The New Self emPowerment™ is not therapy, and Emily Eldredge is not a therapist. 

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